Ego’s Obsession with Perfection

Ego Obsession with PerfectionThe desire and need for ‘perfection’ is based entirely on our ego’s perceptions.  However, perfection is a grand illusion at best.  What most of us fail to realize is that life is perfect the way it is.  And, one person’s definition of perfection is not necessarily the same for everyone else.  Nevertheless, we strive to achieve ambitions that are quite often unrealistic.  This creates a great deal of needless anxiety, stress and frustration.  As a result, life becomes painful and even intolerant.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

By living under this mindset, little things become big things and wreak havoc on our mental states.  The obsession for perfection can include things such as weight, relationships, academic performance, financial success and how we believe others perceive us.  By focusing on superficial issues that require ‘fixing’, we imply that we are dissatisfied and ungrateful for the things that we have.

Each of us has gifts, talents and traits that make us unique, special and important.  And although they may appear at times to be imperfect, it’s always best to accept, love and embrace who you are.  This is how your light shines through and positively impacts the world.  Be true to yourself and watch the miracles happen!

Life Is Perfect the Way It Is

In absence of the ego’s judgments, everything is already perfect the way it is.  The perceived imperfections actually contribute to the perfection of how life is meant to be.  This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try to do or be your best.  It simply means not being overly attached and focused on what you believe is wrong with you and the world.  As you begin to eliminate the need for perfection in all areas of life, you’ll begin to discover the perfection in life itself.  Enjoy and be grateful for the way things are!

How to Overcome the Obsession with Perfection

It’s important to catch yourself when you begin to fall into the habit of insisting that things be a ‘certain way’.  Try to remain conscious of the following:

  • Accept yourself as being human
  • Forgive yourself for mistakes or failings
  • Understand that ideals are only guidelines
  • Set realistic and flexible time frames for the achievement of goals (Rome wasn’t built in a day)
  • Have patience and reduce the need to “get it done yesterday”
  • Recognize that getting off-track is not the end of the world
  • Remain conscious to thoughts of inadequacy (stop them in their tracks)
  • Love yourself and believe that you deserve good things
  • How you ‘play the game’ is often more important than winning
  • Realize that role models are not any more perfect than you are (they’re human just like us)

In what ways do you consider yourself to be a perfectionist?  How do these ideals affect your life and the lives of those around you?  Share your thoughts below!

About Scott Matthews
The founder of Egoic Living shares more than 15 years of research about the human condition. A student of consciousness and metaphysics, he strives to bridge the gap between ego and being. Learn more.


  1. nic says:

    If there is no you (judgment and opinions) then there is only that is. And being there even is an is it is perfect. Reality continues on because if it weren’t perfect it would crumble. Existentialism

  2. Dilpreet BHatia says:

    Stuck in the same perfection loop as of now… And it so happens in creativity, when you feel that if you are not perfect your creations will not be accepted by the world!!

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